Today, like many days, I find myself thankful for my friends…the ‘lifers’ as
I call them. We laugh together, cry
together, suffer and celebrate together and in many ways we are closer than
most siblings.
You see, most of us met each other out of circumstance (‘situational’
friends as I like to say) but as time passed, memories were made, bonds were
forged, experiences were shared and lifetime relationships were formed. I love these people…with all of my
heart. When I say we share each other’s
joy and pain, it isn’t just something you say…it is real. As my hubby packs for a deployment, I weep
for his departure (yep, I’m crier if you didn’t already know that)…yet at the
same time I shed tears of joy because his leaving signals a friend’s husband’s
homecoming and I am truly excited for their family. While the children and I will miss J terribly
and long for a simple hug, our friend and her children will finally get the hug
that they’ve been craving for so long. I feel it all…all at the same time.
The best part is that not only do they realize that I am not
perfect, they realize that they are not perfect, either…and yet we all love and
fully support each other regardless. We don’t
pass judgment on each other and our relationships are free of expectations or
entitlement. We do what we can for each
other when we can and when, for whatever reason, it isn’t feasible to be the
one ‘doing’, nobody gets angry, hurt or offended over not being adequately
taken care of or something equally as silly…they simply handle it themselves…whatever
‘it’ may be. We all understand that *life* happens so when we go extended
periods without seeing each other or having time to catch-up, it’s okay…we just
pick up where we left off when things settle down a bit. Why does this work?
Well, for starters, we are all fiercely independent and I think that is a huge
factor…add a deployment into the mix and our independence kicks into high gear. As a collective, we nearly refuse to ask for
help…even from each other. When I step back and view our behavior from afar, it
is actually quite comical. Not rain, nor snow, nor pregnancy, surgery, small
children or heat of summer will render us unable to do anything…it’s both
endearing and frustrating. But in the end, we are not all here to just take
care of each other, but to support each other and to understand that what you
see on the surface is not necessarily the whole story…my friends are here for
my whole story and I am here for theirs.
Thank you…each and every one of you…for filling my life with
an overwhelming abundance of love, compassion and understanding and for allowing
me to be a part of your lives…I cherish each of you every day!!
~Jac
